7 Ways to Spot a Russian Dating Scammer
1. If you decided to find a Russian wife through online dating sites or a marriage agency or dating sites, try to avoid free dating sites. Since anyone can register on the site, there is a much greater risk of being scammed. Don’t take this risk and don’t waste your time. Go with respectable agencies, which are well known and have a solid reputation, such as Anastasia International or Elena’s Model’s.
2. Be cautious if it is the woman who contacted you first and if she is too persistent. The majority of Russian women are modest and they usually wait for a man to take an action.
3. Many scammers use pre-written letters to save time. So if you ask a Russian woman a few questions and she doesn’t answer them in her letter, be very careful. Ask something once again (something basic, such as: do you like red color?) and see if she answers.
4. If a woman starts telling you how awful all Russian men are, she is either not very smart, or she is a scammer. Scammers like to pity themselves in their letters and worship their “victims”, calling them “my prince”, “my future husband”, “my love”.
5. It is not uncommon for Russian dating scammers to “fall in love” in their victims in a very short period of time. Keep in mind that a respectable woman will not start throwing herself at you after your 2nd letter and signing her letters as “your princess”, or the “the love of your life” with lots of hugs and kisses. Pride is a big part of a Russian culture.
6. Have realistic expectations. Even if you are a really cool and unusually attractive guy, true love doesn’t happen after 3 letters. So if in her 2nd letter she tells you that she is so much in love that she can’t sleep and breathe and that her friends tease her about it, don’t buy it. I know that you want to believe it, but don’t. You will save yourself trouble later on.
7. Never ever send her any money. Especially if she asks you for them. It is common for Russian dating scammers to ask money for visa, ticket sick mother, sister etc. Often they would not ask for money directly, but would continue hinting and pitying themselves. Read story of our friend Jack here.
If you think you are being scammed, but are not a hundred percent sure, feel free to ask us. We’ll be happy to give you our opinion and help if we can.
Best,
N. and G.
Thank you for these tips. It is amazing how many guys don’t know this and are getting scammed. Two of my friends were scammed by the same girl or whoever she was and they only found out about it, because she asked them for money at the same time.
She used different names and different pictures, but her letters and strategies were identical. She never answered any questions, but kept sending pictures and pre-written letters until suddenly her “sister” got really sick and needed money.
I agree that you should avoid free dating sites at all cost. Otherwise you will most likely be scammed.
Thank you for sharing your story, Single.
Good luck to you!
Was contacted by a girl about 3 weeks ago. Switched to email on second day and exchange one email aday. She has told me much about herself and I have only given her my first name and much less detail with one photo of me to her 40 photos.
All her photos are of an attractive blonde including pics with girlfriends and parents. I have been nice and also stern to say I am savvy to scammers and that she can come to visit me but could not pay for her trip. She said she would cover her own expenses and that she was loving me, would check into travel info and that her parents would let her go. She was a teacher but lost job recently. Was looking for new jobs but now wants to come and see me. I put her name in on is she a scammer site by name and email but it was not on there. She sends her email from library and does not have phone. Should I look up her name through her email to see if it matches name she gave me? She seems insecure and says I am her prince that she has been looking for. I have heard many russian girls want to meet american men. She seems lonely and a bit overwhelmed about coming to USA but wants to come. Doesnt always answer my questions and could type a little better. Please comment! Thanks