Do Not Do This When Corresponding with a Russian/Eastern-European Woman
There are plenty of things which can go wrong when you are corresponding with someone from a different culture. The good news is that if get familiar with the culture, these things are relatively easy to avoid.
The biggest mistakes that many Western men do in the beginning of their correspondence to a Russian or an Eastern European woman is mentioning money in.
If you boast that you are making enough money, you may be attracting gold diggers and you probably don’t want that. Also, in the beginning of the corresponding it is hard to tell whether the woman you are writing to is real or is indeed a scammer, so telling about your 6-digit salary in your first letter is not the best idea.
Saying that you don’t have enough money is also a bad idea. Eastern European or a Russian woman who has never been in the U.S. don’t know anything about mortgages, high taxes, retirement accounts and the like. If you say that you earn $2000 a week they understand it as if you had $2000 cash to spend every 2 weeks. So if you say that you are making 2k every 2 weeks, but then say that you can’t afford a $1000 plane ticket at the moment, she will not understand it and get offended.
The best thing is not to mention money at all. This way you will protect your wallet and avoid unnecessary explanations and culture clashes.
I never mention money. It still doesn’t work.
Sorry to hear.
Actually American women don’t understand money either
I remember when my now-ex and I first discussed the prospect of marriage, her next words were “Well, when we get married I want a house by the lake, a boat, a jet-ski, a private school for my daughter, and at least two Disney World vacations each year…” I just asked, “So did you get a raise at work? I didn’t…”
But I do understand about the culture clash, but they’ll need to face it eventually anyway. Maybe it’s a good idea to ease them into the reality, but it seems like eventually reality will win over false presuppositions. Any advice on how to smooth that over?