Things You Absolutely Need to Know before Taking a Russian Woman out on a Date. Part 2

February 8, 2010 | By Russian Wife In In Case You Were Wondering, Russian Women |

If you are taking a Russian woman out to eat, keep in mind that you have to pay for everything. If you don’t, this date might be your last. Men are supposed to pay for women in restaurants; this is the way it works in Russia. She may even not have any money on her, because she assumes you are paying.

If she has to pay for her meal, she will think you don’t care enough for her, or that you are greedy, or both.

On our first date Gary invited me to an over-priced Irish restaurant on the boardwalk (our first date was in the U.S.) I (N.) knew that men-women relations are different in the West and I was dreading that I would have to pay for my steak. I didn’t have much cash on me, and admitting this would humiliate me (Russian pride is a powerful thing). All I could do was pray that either I had enough money, or that he would pay for the meal. God heard my prayers. Gary turned out to be old-fashioned and after we were done eating, he pulled his credit card out and paid. Whew. What a relief. We laugh about this now, but it wasn’t funny then.

Another important tip. If you are taking out a Russian woman to eat looking for a gift for her, never say how expensive or overly priced you think it is. Russian women are very sensitive, so if you are out on a date, you open a menu and say that you can’t believe the sky rocket prices, it will offend her. It is also a part of Russian pride. She will think that since you are making this comment, you don’t think she is worth much. Also, if you got her a gift don’t brag that you got it on a blowout sale for dirt cheap. Maybe after you are married for a few years, it would be appropriate, but don’t say it when you are dating. It is actually very humiliating. Trust me.

When your date is over, always thank her for a splendid time (even if the food in restaurant sucked and the waiter got half of your overpriced order wrong). These things should not be important when you are on a date with someone you love or like very much (well, from a Russian woman’s perspective anyway). If you really feel like complaining, do it over beer with your buddies, but not in front of your lady. If you get married to her, there will be plenty of opportunities to be grumpy in front of her. Don’t do it quite yet.

As usually, any specific questions, ask.:-)

Best of luck!